The downhill slope – part I

Welcome aboard Ego Airlines! 

We will be traveling on a downhill slope towards your final destination of Empty Life and our arrival time is scheduled to sooner-than-you-wish. We have plenty of emergency exits and warning signs - all of which you will ignore.  Since all passengers will be unhappy on arrival, we have for you, free of charge, our Pity-Me complaint form that will be handed out shortly. These will help you get attention from friends, especially combine with self-loathing and tears. Please do not take more than 2 or 3 per friend since they will be worn out by too many complaints and your lack of actions. Soon after take-off, drinks will be served - a perfect help to deny reality and responsibility, and still feel good! 

Thank you!

When you are down the pit, locked-up by isolation, brain-washed, full of fear and guilt and a mangled brain not thinking straight, it is tough to make the right decisions and take action. 

The actions to make if you are down the pit are simple: get away for the environment (the guy), interact with good people and wait until you feel the fog disappear in your brain. So the down-in-the-pit part is not that interesting. (Well, it is interesting that most women do not take actions but I leave that for now.)

I am more interested in the beginning and the travel down to the pit.

As being a pilot, one is responsible for other people’s lives – in the airplane and on the ground.  But larger passenger jets of today can take off, fly and land automatically, so why do feel safer with a human being up front?  The answer is: We trust the pilot make good decisions and take action if something goes wrong. 

When shits hit the fan in the cockpit one will notice, but sometimes the problems come in small dozes and starting to add up. Sneaky but deadly! Us pilots get training to recognize this, something we sometime refer to as "The downhill slope".

En route, you notice that one engine have lost some power. Options available: alert ground, turn around, divert to a nearby airport or just go on. You decide to add some power and everything is OK again. Or is it? Later you get an overheat warning from the same engine and you have to shut it down. Things get more hectic now. Options available: Divert to on airport, sadly behind a mountain and you will loose altitude due to the loss of one engine or continue ahead. 

I think you get the picture. In the beginning of the slope you have loads of options, at the end of the slope you can just choose among bad options. 

The same goes for bad relationships. The warning signs are there but can be ignored. You sell out your freedom in small pieces. And I think you know...

One proof can be the fact that an overwhelmingly majority of women who got out from an abusive relationship get into yet another one! That is recycled stupidity! You have to utterly sell out your knowledge and intelligence to follow the same downhill slope again. 

- Captain! The warning sign that was the beginning of the last crash went off again! 

- Let’s continue! I cannot see any reasons it will go bad again.

Why does women choose to ignore warning signs? Or do they choose? Maybe it is instinct? Maybe they add the rational bit afterwords. 

To make the following discussions easier, I will paint out the game field with some definitions, axioms and illustrations. 

We start with a view of actions according to gain and losses, and see what that leads us.